Firstly, let me say ... I understand that (some) guys do attribute towards domestic violence. But then again, so do some women.
I think it's vital to separate types of violence. A man killing his wife is not the same as a man who hits his wife during an argument.
Sure, both types are violence, but the reasons they occur can be totally different.
Apparently, it seems Men are to blame for just about everything wrong in a woman's life. We are the cause of the gender pay gap. We are the cause of why women's shelters are needed. We are the cause of violence towards women.
Apparently women do absolutely nothing wrong.
Women apparently NEVER initiate violence in a relationship. Yeah right! In my life, I have seen a number of women hit their male partners. Sometimes, there was alcohol involved and sometimes not. But, why is this not seen as violence towards men? Is it because the male is supposed to be big and tough, and therefore this violence shouldn't actually be counted as violence? It's all violence, despite who initiates it. Why is it that women can get away with it and men can't? In saying this and despite women saying they are equal to men, men are physically stronger and their violence will probably hurt more than a woman's violence toward a man.
What we also never hear about and is quietly swept under the carpet, is how women help contribute towards the violence against them. I have seen and heard this with my own eyes and ears. I have heard women put down their husbands / boyfriends in front of other people. I have heard them ridiculing their partners. I have heard them niggling at their partners, having digs. You have to wonder how long men put up with this demeaning behaviour from their wives / girlfriends before they spit the dummy and take it out on them? Add alcohol into the issue, and it's a recipe for something to go wrong. Despite this, men are still at fault. Even though they are provoked, it still rests entirely with men. What a load of crap. You can only provoke someone so much before they spit the dummy and lash out. If it was a man belittling and demeaning his partner, women would go on about the psychological damage from this behaviour. It would be added to the list of bad things men do. But, apparently, it's OK for women to do this. I don't hear Rosie Battie saying "we have to stop the behaviour of certain women who demean and provoke their male partners". In Rosie Battie's eyes, women can do no wrong. It's always the males fault.
Violence will never be combated in a relationship if the causes for the violence are not examined. Let me put it another way. There are women I work with that I know if I was to verbally demean them and put them down, they would explode and probably slap me. In Rosie Batties eyes, is this OK? because "I was asking for it" ... I was provoking them, so it's no wonder they reacted like they did. You see what I'm trying to say? How uneven the playing field is? Women can get away with doing just about anything, but men can't. We are the evil ones.
We are living in such female centric society, where females really are much better off than they think they are. Everyone knows of the Pink Ribbon campaign putting breast cancer further in the spotlight. Umpteen manufacturers from milk, to women products, to breakfast cereals got on board with the campaign. Where's the campaign spotlighting men's testicular cancer? I can't see anything around the size of the Pink Ribbon campaign. Are men not worth it?
Women also seem to forget that it was MEN who developed and invented most of the things women use on a day to day basis without a thought. Who invented powered flight: MEN. Who invented the washing machine: MEN. Who discovered the laws of physics: MEN. Who invented mobile phones: MEN. Who invented social media platforms: MEN. Who invented boats: MEN. Who developed most of the earlier medicines still in use today: MEN. Who invented computers: MEN. Who invented printing: MEN. Who design and build most of buildings, skyscrapers, offices etc: MEN. Who invented the car: MEN. Who invented railways: MEN.
If it wasn't for men, women would have no way to print literature saying how bad men are and how violent we are in relationships. They wouldn't be able to compile dossiers on violent offenders. They wouldn't be able to travel by air, road or rail to meetings about how bad men are.
And yes, I acknowledge there are women who contributed and still contribute to the above fields - Madame Curie and her X-ray work in the past for example - it is still men who have contributed the most, especially in the 18th and 19th centuries.
We have a lot of women who currently work in pharmaceuticals, computers etc, but again, if it wasn't for men, these industries wouldn't be around in the first place.
In my opinion, if we really are to combat violence between men and women, we have to examine all aspects of what makes the situation explode. No doubt alcohol is a major contributor, but lets look at how alcohol affects both genders. If we can stop drunk women provoking men to the point where the men explode, surely that has to help stop violence?
Oh, and don't get me started on how it appears that women are the biggest killers of their own children! You only have to read the media reports over the past few years. Why doesn't this receive the same attention as men who commit violent acts in a relationship?
Get Real
Some examples of what I mean:
(American) mother keeps kids chained up in a backyard like dogs
And here, we have an example of a woman who is praised by other women for vandalising her boyfriends expensive Four Wheel Drive. OK, if he's a cheater, he's a cheater, but that doesn't give her the right to do acts such as this. If a bloke did it, he'd be regarded as a bastard, immature and he'd be in court in a flash for vandalism!
Woman damages her ex's expensive 4 wheel drive and she's labelled a hero?? rather than a vandal?
Woman mutilates her estranged husbands pet dog and guts it to pretend she's had a miscarriage to get him back.
A woman (the stepmother) urges the biological father to inflict pain and suffering on his own kids
I think it's vital to separate types of violence. A man killing his wife is not the same as a man who hits his wife during an argument.
Sure, both types are violence, but the reasons they occur can be totally different.
Men are facing a tough time these days.
Apparently, it seems Men are to blame for just about everything wrong in a woman's life. We are the cause of the gender pay gap. We are the cause of why women's shelters are needed. We are the cause of violence towards women.
Apparently women do absolutely nothing wrong.
Women apparently NEVER initiate violence in a relationship. Yeah right! In my life, I have seen a number of women hit their male partners. Sometimes, there was alcohol involved and sometimes not. But, why is this not seen as violence towards men? Is it because the male is supposed to be big and tough, and therefore this violence shouldn't actually be counted as violence? It's all violence, despite who initiates it. Why is it that women can get away with it and men can't? In saying this and despite women saying they are equal to men, men are physically stronger and their violence will probably hurt more than a woman's violence toward a man.
What we also never hear about and is quietly swept under the carpet, is how women help contribute towards the violence against them. I have seen and heard this with my own eyes and ears. I have heard women put down their husbands / boyfriends in front of other people. I have heard them ridiculing their partners. I have heard them niggling at their partners, having digs. You have to wonder how long men put up with this demeaning behaviour from their wives / girlfriends before they spit the dummy and take it out on them? Add alcohol into the issue, and it's a recipe for something to go wrong. Despite this, men are still at fault. Even though they are provoked, it still rests entirely with men. What a load of crap. You can only provoke someone so much before they spit the dummy and lash out. If it was a man belittling and demeaning his partner, women would go on about the psychological damage from this behaviour. It would be added to the list of bad things men do. But, apparently, it's OK for women to do this. I don't hear Rosie Battie saying "we have to stop the behaviour of certain women who demean and provoke their male partners". In Rosie Battie's eyes, women can do no wrong. It's always the males fault.
Violence will never be combated in a relationship if the causes for the violence are not examined. Let me put it another way. There are women I work with that I know if I was to verbally demean them and put them down, they would explode and probably slap me. In Rosie Batties eyes, is this OK? because "I was asking for it" ... I was provoking them, so it's no wonder they reacted like they did. You see what I'm trying to say? How uneven the playing field is? Women can get away with doing just about anything, but men can't. We are the evil ones.
We are living in such female centric society, where females really are much better off than they think they are. Everyone knows of the Pink Ribbon campaign putting breast cancer further in the spotlight. Umpteen manufacturers from milk, to women products, to breakfast cereals got on board with the campaign. Where's the campaign spotlighting men's testicular cancer? I can't see anything around the size of the Pink Ribbon campaign. Are men not worth it?
Women also seem to forget that it was MEN who developed and invented most of the things women use on a day to day basis without a thought. Who invented powered flight: MEN. Who invented the washing machine: MEN. Who discovered the laws of physics: MEN. Who invented mobile phones: MEN. Who invented social media platforms: MEN. Who invented boats: MEN. Who developed most of the earlier medicines still in use today: MEN. Who invented computers: MEN. Who invented printing: MEN. Who design and build most of buildings, skyscrapers, offices etc: MEN. Who invented the car: MEN. Who invented railways: MEN.
If it wasn't for men, women would have no way to print literature saying how bad men are and how violent we are in relationships. They wouldn't be able to compile dossiers on violent offenders. They wouldn't be able to travel by air, road or rail to meetings about how bad men are.
And yes, I acknowledge there are women who contributed and still contribute to the above fields - Madame Curie and her X-ray work in the past for example - it is still men who have contributed the most, especially in the 18th and 19th centuries.
We have a lot of women who currently work in pharmaceuticals, computers etc, but again, if it wasn't for men, these industries wouldn't be around in the first place.
In my opinion, if we really are to combat violence between men and women, we have to examine all aspects of what makes the situation explode. No doubt alcohol is a major contributor, but lets look at how alcohol affects both genders. If we can stop drunk women provoking men to the point where the men explode, surely that has to help stop violence?
Oh, and don't get me started on how it appears that women are the biggest killers of their own children! You only have to read the media reports over the past few years. Why doesn't this receive the same attention as men who commit violent acts in a relationship?
Get Real
Some examples of what I mean:
(American) mother keeps kids chained up in a backyard like dogs
And here, we have an example of a woman who is praised by other women for vandalising her boyfriends expensive Four Wheel Drive. OK, if he's a cheater, he's a cheater, but that doesn't give her the right to do acts such as this. If a bloke did it, he'd be regarded as a bastard, immature and he'd be in court in a flash for vandalism!
Woman damages her ex's expensive 4 wheel drive and she's labelled a hero?? rather than a vandal?
Woman mutilates her estranged husbands pet dog and guts it to pretend she's had a miscarriage to get him back.
A woman (the stepmother) urges the biological father to inflict pain and suffering on his own kids
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